Many parents are careful about who their children marry, and this is especially true for their female children. Feminist movement notwithstanding, we still think that marriage is more important for girls than for boys. It contributes more to girls’ sense of self, defines a woman to a greater extent, and makes up a bigger part of her life. This is why, we are very picky about the guys our daughters date. We are very involved in who the eventual Mr. Right will be. Our biggest fear is that she’ll make a bad choice. To some parents though, even the worst choice is not as bad as no choice at all.
This is about them. For some reason, they are horrified by the prospect of their daughter remaining single for the rest of her life. Some parents do not respect common-law partnerships, even though they are recognized by law in some countries. If there is no ring, then there is nothing. This archaic mentality has been known to push daughters into a marriage they were not ready for and to someone who was not really the right person. And still it survives. Would you really feel better if she married a deadbeat whom she’d have to take care of? Or someone 30 years older than her who was not rich? Or some jerk just because she got pregnant? Would you be so intent on your son getting married?
To be fair, most parents do not want something like this happening to their beloved girls. We want her to marry a nice, good-looking young man who pulls in $200,000 a year and still has time to take her on a vacation every other week to every destination of her choice. He also has three college degrees and postgraduate studies. He does volunteer work and helps old ladies across the street every time he sees one. He gets out of his Benz to do so. Why couldn’t she marry someone like that? Someone loving, gorgeous, intelligent, sensitive and fabulously wealthy? Probably because he is already married. He got married to someone named Hans in Denmark.
Maybe it’s your fault. Have you thought about this being a possibility? Some women, unhappy with their own marriages, project their dissatisfaction onto their daughters. They build up their self-esteem to unprecedented highs, as in “nothing but the very, very best for my little princess”. So, the little princess rejects all proposals, always waiting and waiting for something better. He should not have any bad habits, any bad personality traits, definitely should not have low income…and Mr. Right never comes. Are you still wondering why?
Every girl should be so lucky to have a loving, gentle, and generous father. The problem is that nobody will ever quite measure up to Daddy. This is why many women go for older men and end up getting really disappointed. When a girl is 20, a man of 40 is quite appealing. He has a stable career and experience in life and can guide her. He’s really good in bed, too. When she’s 40 and in her sexual prime, she is married to someone who is 60. Few things can suck as much as that.
Either way, don’t get depressed. Look on the bright side. Your daughter could be a lesbian!