Teen pregnancy is not viewed quite positively today, but it shouldn’t be considered something that disgraceful, either. And if the fact makes you really freak out, it certainly is not the end of the world. Here are a few tips that I hope will help you swallow the bitter pill
First and foremost don’t panic. The more you freak out, the more dreadful the situation may appear to you. Practically, there are only two ways out of this delicate predicament – either you can decide that your daughter keeps the child, insisting that the culprit for your daughter’s condition step up and acknowledge paternity, or you can encourage your daughter to have an abortion.
Second, before you heap reproaches on your beloved daughter, which will only add insult to her injury, think about what has cost her to pick up the courage and spit the pebble about her pregnancy before you. It is equally useless to start blaming yourself for not informing your daughter about the ways she could have protected herself against unwanted pregnancy. Even if she had known almost everything about it, she could have still made a mistake. Instead, try to be supportive and understanding, because your daughter needs to know that you are by her side. This does not mean, however, that you should shoulder all the responsibility about her pregnancy. Quite on the contrary, you should make her realize that she must take her share of responsibility for her delicate condition.
Next, if you decide to go for an abortion, you should first consult experienced gynecologist about the possible risks to your daughter’s fertility that may occur as a result of such an intervention. And if the risks outweigh the benefits, you should prepare to become a young grandma.
Once you decide to keep the child, you should first make sure that your daughter will nonetheless complete her schooling. Teenage pregnancy often causes young girls to drop out of school. Having arranged that, you should now go on and find the main culprit for your daughter’s pregnancy, if it’s possible, and ask him to take his share of responsibility for his future offspring. I agree that girls should first complete their college education and then get married, but sometimes it can happen the other way around. Things are a bit easier if your daughter is at least eighteen years of age, as she can legally tie the knot. If she is between sixteen and eighteen years of age, you should explicitly declare your consent to her marriage before an attorney. After all, no difficulties are insurmountable, as long as your daughter and the father of her coming child are head over heels in love with each other.
In any case, your daughter will inevitably miss the party stage in her life, because of her early motherhood. Also, having a baby involves raising extra funds to support the cute little newcomer to your family. As your daughter is still too young to work, you and her father should shoulder the whole responsibility for providing for the young family.
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Tags: abortion, motherhood, parenting, teenage pregnancy